Over nearly three decades in clinical practice, I have witnessed a remarkable shift in the way men approach therapy. What was once an uncomfortable, even taboo, topic has become a pragmatic step towards living with clarity, control, and emotional intelligence. Today, more men across Scotland and the wider UK: from electricians to lawyers, engineers to entrepreneurs are discovering that seeking therapy isn’t a sign of weakness but an act of personal leadership.
The Changing Landscape of Men’s Mental Health
The years following 2020 were a turning point for many men. The pandemic fractured routines, exposed vulnerabilities, and forced a kind of introspection few were prepared for. Combined with rising costs of living, career uncertainty, and social isolation, it created a psychological climate where stress and anxiety could no longer be suppressed by work, alcohol, or endurance alone. Instead, men began to talk.
Historically, cultural expectations have demanded that men embody stoicism, the silent provider who “just gets on with it.” But this archetype, though once socially rewarded, has also cost generations of men their health and happiness. We now understand that bottling up emotions can raise cortisol (the body’s primary stress hormone), compromise immune function, and increase the risk of heart disease, depression, and burnout. Simply put, silence is no longer sustainable.
Why Men Are Seeking Help Now
The rise in men seeking therapy is not confined to one demographic. I see clients in their early thirties balancing fatherhood and professional growth, middle-aged men recalibrating life after divorce, and retirees facing questions of meaning and identity. Yet beneath the diversity of backgrounds lies a shared realisation that emotional self-awareness is strength, not softness.
Several cultural and biological factors underpin this shift. Firstly, the conversation around mental health has matured. Public figures, athletes, and CEOs now speak openly about therapy, making it more relatable and less clinical. Secondly, access to adult therapy has improved with online sessions breaking down geographic and time barriers, particularly for men in rural Scotland or those balancing shift work.
Finally, the modern workforce has changed. Whether it’s an electrician navigating client pressures, an office worker juggling deadlines, or a solicitor struggling with fatigue and perfectionism, performance-driven environments now demand emotional regulation and resilience. Therapy has become a tool for sharper thinking, not just crisis recovery.
The Hormonal Connection: Testosterone, Cortisol, and Emotional Health
From a biological standpoint, men’s mental health is closely tied to hormonal balance, particularly testosterone and cortisol. Testosterone is more than a driver of libido or muscle mass; it also influences confidence, motivation, and mood stability. Chronic stress, poor sleep, or prolonged overwork can suppress testosterone levels, leading to irritability, fatigue, and a subtle but pervasive loss of drive.
When testosterone declines, often starting from the mid-30s onward; men may experience mood swings, anxiety, or even depressive symptoms that are easily mistaken for burnout. In parallel, chronic elevation of cortisol disrupts normal brain chemistry, impairing memory, focus, and sleep. The combination can leave men feeling detached, reactive, and emotionally flat.
Therapy helps break this cycle by providing structured reflection. When men learn to identify and regulate stress, hormonal systems often rebalance naturally. I’ve seen clients regain vitality, rediscover purpose, and improve physical wellbeing simply by learning how to process emotions more effectively. This holistic benefit, mind influencing body, is one of therapy’s most overlooked strengths.
The Modern Man: From Suppression to Self-Understanding
In the 1990s, when I began my practice, most male clients arrived reluctantly, usually at the insistence of a partner or GP. The presenting problems were rarely labelled as “emotional.” Instead, men spoke of exhaustion, insomnia, anger, or difficulties at work. Therapy was seen as the last resort rather than the first step.
Today, men enter therapy for proactive reasons. They want to communicate better in relationships, manage anxiety, rebuild after redundancy, or simply find a sense of meaning beyond material success. The conversation has evolved from “How do I stop feeling this way?” to “How can I live with more purpose and peace?”
This generational change is profound. Younger men, in particular, are growing up in a more emotionally literate society. They are more willing to speak about panic attacks, loneliness, or burnout. Older men, meanwhile, are learning that therapy can be a space for reflection and self-respect rather than confession. The masculine instinct to solve problems finds a new outlet: understanding oneself as part of the solution.
Therapy Benefits for Men: Short-Term and Long-Term
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The Working Man’s Mind
Across professions, certain patterns emerge. Tradesmen often carry physical exhaustion layered with financial pressure. Corporate professionals battle perfectionism, performance anxiety, and long hours of digital exposure. Lawyers and business owners frequently wrestle with control, the constant need to “hold it together.”
Each group faces a unique psychological landscape, yet the outcome of therapy is similar: restored clarity. When men gain awareness of how their stress responses operate whether that’s shutting down, overworking, or numbing through alcohol! They regain choice. They begin to manage life rather than be managed by it.
Interestingly, the most common comment I hear after several sessions is not “I feel emotional,” but “I feel lighter.” That weight often invisible but ever-present, lifts when expression replaces suppression. Therapy creates a space where men can speak without performance, expectation, or judgement. That alone can transform mental health outcomes.
Therapy and Testosterone: Reclaiming Drive and Vitality
While therapy is psychological by nature, it has measurable physiological effects. Research shows that lowering chronic stress through therapeutic work can stabilise cortisol and support testosterone balance. This translates into improved energy, motivation, and focus attributes that many men associate with their sense of masculinity and productivity.
When men learn to articulate stress rather than internalise it, their sleep improves, recovery accelerates, and cognitive performance sharpens. One client, a 45-year-old project manager, described therapy as “like servicing my mind.” Another, a self-employed electrician, found his blood pressure normalised after six months of regular sessions. These are not coincidences. The nervous system thrives when understood.
Breaking the Generational Cycle
Many men who enter therapy now are doing so not only for themselves but for their families. They recognise the ripple effect of emotional maturity how their ability to listen, empathise, and express can reshape their relationships with partners and children. Breaking the generational cycle of emotional avoidance may be one of the most powerful legacies of modern men’s therapy.
Fathers who once grew up with emotional distance are now modelling openness and compassion. Sons who might have inherited silence are instead learning language for their inner world. In this sense, therapy for men isn’t just treatment, it’s prevention for the next generation.
Why This Trend Is a Good Thing
Men’s increased engagement with therapy is a sign of social evolution. It represents a merging of two forms of strength: the physical resilience that has long defined masculinity, and the emotional intelligence that sustains it. Therapy doesn’t take away toughness; it refines it. It transforms reaction into reflection, and pressure into perspective.
In my 29 years of working with men, I’ve learned that transformation often begins quietly. A single conversation, an honest admission, or a moment of vulnerability can open doors that years of endurance could not. As stigma fades and science continues to link mental health to hormonal, social, and cognitive health, therapy for men will only become more mainstream and more essential.
When to Reach Out
If you’re reading this and wondering whether therapy could help, that curiosity is reason enough to explore. Whether you’re managing daily stress, recovering from loss, or striving for a better sense of balance, professional support can help you move from surviving to thriving.
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Gemma Holmes is a Consultant Psychologist with 29 years of clinical experience in men’s mental health and integrative therapy. She believes therapy should be as natural and practical as any other aspect of healthcare an investment in strength, clarity, and self-understanding.